A review of literature about Holiday Blues unanimously points out that unmet expectations is the major culprit of making people feel down during the Holidays. Related to unmet expectations are, stress, fatigue and being unable to be with family. Is it the “Happiest time of the year”? Not when I’m trying to find a parking spot at the mall; or agonizing over the perfect gift – which I can’t afford; or missing a loved one who passed away.
Here are some tips to minimize Holiday stress and depression:
Make realistic expectations for yourself. We do not live in TV Land, or in a happy commercial.
Life is real and you’re doing the best you can. For example: If you don’t have time to bake dessert – buy one.
If you can’t afford an expensive gift, spend what you can – the dollar amount isn’t what Christmas is about. To avoid January Blues, don’t overspend.
Simplify when needed.
Make a list, and check it twice. Try to prioritize activities and be realistic about what you can and cannot do. Don’t take on more than you can handle.
Live in the moment. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by comparing today with “the good old days”. Remember those who have passed away with a special activity – hanging an ornament, reminiscing with family ect.. Try to enjoy the present, with present company.
Volunteer. It’s true that helping someone else, comes back to us 10 fold. This is spirit-lifting anytime of the year, but especially at Christmas time when loneliness may set in, a volunteer activity will spark good will for you and others.
Take advantage of free Holiday events. Window shopping, civic events, parades are festive and easy on the budget.
Watch “A Charlie Brown Christmas”. Charlie Brown experiences Christmas Blues as he tries to figure out what Christmas is about. Is it all about commercialization, the perfect Christmas play or tree? Linus helps Charlie Brown by telling the Christmas Story. Remembering the spiritual side of Christmas is the best way to bring a sense of peace and hope, despite all the modern distractions.
[This blog was submitted by the Cedar Community’s – Cedar Care Pathfinders Geriatric Case Manager, Christa Pretzl.]
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