You have heard the phrase that says, “Sometimes we cheat ourselves!” I am sorry to say that I witness the meaning of this phrase on a regular basis. Let me explain.
I have had many opportunities to provide tours to seniors who have shown some interest in seeing our independent homes or apartments; our assisted living apartments; and, our health and rehabilitation center. All of our staff who conduct tours of our facilities, try to learn about the needs and interests of the prospective senior and even those of their families. The best housing is one that provides the least amount of restrictions to the lifestyle of the senior, but also best provides the proper environment, services and programs to meet the individuals needs.
The “needs” usually fit into several categories. These might include: security; nutrition; physical comfort; medications; medical procedures; therapy; hygiene; social interaction; cognitive activity; recreation; and, spiritual. Cedar Community provides a dynamic array of living and care environments that can effectively meet the needs of most seniors.
I remember a past situation in which a single widowed male, who lived alone came to see our Cedar Bay Assisted Living apartments. He was in his late 80’s and was having difficulty living alone. He specifically had trouble making meals and depended on a meals-on-wheels daily delivery. This was the only meal of the day for him. Bathing happened irregularly. The washing of his clothes seldom was done. His medication regime was erratic at best. After viewing a Cedar Bay apartment, he became happy and more animated. He talked about how nice life might be for him if he lived here. The family was so pleased, because this man, their dad seemed so pleased to consider these new wonderful options and possibilities. Cedar Bay had an opening. The price was affordable. The future was hopeful!
Unfortunately, this story does not end as one might predict. On the ride back home, this senior complemented the family for finding such a nice place . . . and then he said, “Some day I’ll probably live there, but certainly NOT now, not until I need it!”
You see, this is a fine example on how we cheat ourselves! Time after time, this is what happens. When we next see this gentleman it will not be on his terms, it will be the result of a disaster. Maybe he will fall or break a hip or have a stroke. His move will more likely be to the health care center, which is fine, but he will have missed those months or years continuing to live alone in his home in a less than safe and dignified state. He will have lost the opportunity for maximum independency while receiving good food, fun, friends, activities, security, and quality health care. Instead of him making the decision for a brighter future, he is allowing circumstances to make the decision for him. Remember, by NOT making a decision, we ARE making a decision . . . that decision? Let circumstance guide my life rather than let me guide my life! We cheat ourselves by avoiding making good and appropriate decisions.
If you know of someone in a similar situation, share this article and encourage people to NOT cheat themselves to a better and more secure life!
